I also use the strategy of giving my anxiety a name so I don't attach too much meaning to my negative thoughts. I picture him as a hamster furiously running on a wheel, so it made sense to name him Hammy. And Hammy needs to chill the F out lol :)
Lol, I love Hammy! That's a cute name. Yes... not attaching, very important. Just allowing your thoughts to pass through has helped me a lot too. Hope you're well Alyssa!
I'm going to name my inner negative voice "Bridget" and see if that helps. It just sounds so ridiculous to me. "Eff off, Bridget." That'll make me laugh every time. I can also somehow imagine a condescending Bridget in my mind. Great tip, honestly. I'm subscribing to you Claire! Want to see where you go from here on Substack. I'm trying to climb the ranks as well and see if I can do this full-time.
Haha, I call mine Tina. And thank you for subscribing… I’m also curious where I end up with substack lol. Good luck with making this a full time venture. I’ll be posting more stuff about how I’m gaining more followers. 🙂Lmk if there’s something you’d like me to write about!
I was just recommended an episode of the same podcast - will have to make time to listen to this one too. Definitely hearing my inner critic a little louder these days - I think emerging from hibernation has her a bit irritated 😆
Hi Lindsey, thank you for reading. It's good to hear you're recognizing your inner critic is emerging from hibernation! Let me know what you think of the podcast! :)
This is so me! I’ve been through a very similar journey .. discovering the existence of limiting beliefs and the source of my negative thinking.
I started to tackle it by applying what I learnt from personal development podcasts / books to my own life one thing at a time. My first things I applied were affirmations / challenging my self talk . which has completely transformed my life. I’ve become an author and written that memoir like you. I have an optimistic view on my life and have learnt about money mindset too that is having a big impact on my ability to offer my work to others. I’ve turned on the paid subscriptions because “why not?” .. I believe my words are valuable too.
Thank you for talking about this, there are so many who aren’t aware of this survival mechanism that’s holding them back. I’ve re stacked.
Hi Carolyn, thanks for your comment! Sounds like our journeys are pretty similar, thank you for sharing what helped you. I think negative self-talk is always a work in progress. There are many moments in my life when I forget I'm doing this, and I have to actively work on pulling in the inner critic and just letting it be. I heard this on Mel Robbins' podcast, but "Let them" is a term she uses to just let things go when you're frustrated and overwhelmed and just... blah.
I heard another podcast the other day where the woman was saying the most important relationship she wants to grow is with herself. It was nice to hear that, as it's a good reminder that growth and love starts from within, before you can try and share it with others. Kudos to you for recognizing that.
I also use the strategy of giving my anxiety a name so I don't attach too much meaning to my negative thoughts. I picture him as a hamster furiously running on a wheel, so it made sense to name him Hammy. And Hammy needs to chill the F out lol :)
Lol, I love Hammy! That's a cute name. Yes... not attaching, very important. Just allowing your thoughts to pass through has helped me a lot too. Hope you're well Alyssa!
Perfect image and name 😆
I'm going to name my inner negative voice "Bridget" and see if that helps. It just sounds so ridiculous to me. "Eff off, Bridget." That'll make me laugh every time. I can also somehow imagine a condescending Bridget in my mind. Great tip, honestly. I'm subscribing to you Claire! Want to see where you go from here on Substack. I'm trying to climb the ranks as well and see if I can do this full-time.
Haha, I call mine Tina. And thank you for subscribing… I’m also curious where I end up with substack lol. Good luck with making this a full time venture. I’ll be posting more stuff about how I’m gaining more followers. 🙂Lmk if there’s something you’d like me to write about!
I was just recommended an episode of the same podcast - will have to make time to listen to this one too. Definitely hearing my inner critic a little louder these days - I think emerging from hibernation has her a bit irritated 😆
Hi Lindsey, thank you for reading. It's good to hear you're recognizing your inner critic is emerging from hibernation! Let me know what you think of the podcast! :)
This is so me! I’ve been through a very similar journey .. discovering the existence of limiting beliefs and the source of my negative thinking.
I started to tackle it by applying what I learnt from personal development podcasts / books to my own life one thing at a time. My first things I applied were affirmations / challenging my self talk . which has completely transformed my life. I’ve become an author and written that memoir like you. I have an optimistic view on my life and have learnt about money mindset too that is having a big impact on my ability to offer my work to others. I’ve turned on the paid subscriptions because “why not?” .. I believe my words are valuable too.
Thank you for talking about this, there are so many who aren’t aware of this survival mechanism that’s holding them back. I’ve re stacked.
Hi Carolyn, thanks for your comment! Sounds like our journeys are pretty similar, thank you for sharing what helped you. I think negative self-talk is always a work in progress. There are many moments in my life when I forget I'm doing this, and I have to actively work on pulling in the inner critic and just letting it be. I heard this on Mel Robbins' podcast, but "Let them" is a term she uses to just let things go when you're frustrated and overwhelmed and just... blah.
I heard another podcast the other day where the woman was saying the most important relationship she wants to grow is with herself. It was nice to hear that, as it's a good reminder that growth and love starts from within, before you can try and share it with others. Kudos to you for recognizing that.
Love Mel Robbins ❤️ I listen to her podcast regularly.
Wow Carolyn, we're like memoir-podcast twins! :D